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Coming Out Group

A group of support, understanding, and growth Welcome to the "Coming Out Group" – a sanctuary within the ComeOut app where members share their personal coming out experiences. Our group thrives on mutual respect, empathy, and inclusivity, offering a safe space to exchange stories, seek advice, and offer support. Whether you're just starting your journey or have years of experience, there's a place for you here. The group consists of diverse individuals who've walked similar paths, creating a rich tapestry of stories that remind us we're never alone. As part of our Coming Out Group, you'll discover that your story has the power to inspire others, and equally, others' experiences can offer you insights, comfort, and a sense of belonging. Sharing coming out stories Each member's journey is unique – filled with personal triumphs, challenges, emotions, and milestones. In our "Coming Out Group", we celebrate this diversity and encourage open, honest sharing. From tales of acceptance and love to stories of struggle and perseverance, every narrative adds value to our collective understanding and empathy. Seeking advice The process of coming out can feel overwhelming. Having a supportive community to turn to can make a world of difference. Whether you're looking for advice on talking to loved ones, navigating your feelings, or handling unsupportive reactions, our group is here to provide practical tips, personal experiences, and emotional support. Offering support A supportive word, a shared experience, or a simple "I understand" can provide the reassurance someone needs during their coming out journey. In the "Coming Out Group", we foster an environment where each member can contribute their wisdom, empathy, and encouragement to others. Join the conversation Ready to add your voice to our chorus of stories, advice, and support? We invite you to join the "Coming Out Group" today. Share your journey, listen to others, and discover the strength in our shared experiences. Together, we are building a more understanding and accepting world. Download the ComeOut app and join the "Coming Out Group" today. Connect, share, learn, and grow with us. Together, we can navigate the journey.

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Gay

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Gay

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Pansexual

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Coming out story:

My coming out stories are funny, I think. I felt like Columbus discovering a new land. People's reaction "haha, we know" surprised me then and now I laugh with them. Okay, the family reacted a bit differently. It was like this - I tell them "hey, you've been telling me all my life that I act like a boy and I want to tell you that I actually feel like a boy." And they were like "oh how is that? Don't you feel like a girl? It wasn't just a phase?!". Now only close family still call me "a girl". Others people( extended family, friends, colleagues, teachers and rest of people) see me as man, for them that's obviously. And what about my sexual orientation? I'm questioning it. Currently, problems with depression do not help in defining myself at all. People? Great, I love everyone. But who do I want to be with? Girl? Guy? A non-binary person? Or do I want to be alone? No, the latter is definitely not. After all, I'd like to adopt a few kids someday and be an awesome dad. So of course it would be nice if my little bastards had two parents. Well, enough about me. Coming out story. Thank you for listening.

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Questioning, 23, Poland

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Coming out story:

I was really young when I came out. When I did I came out to my aunt, then she went and told my whole family. They decided to turn their backs on me. Though I lost a family, I have found my true family. I am happy to see where the next step will take me.

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Gay, 32, United States

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Coming out story:

I have two coming-out stories. The first Is I told my best friend I was gay because he was also gay but wasn't too sure if I wanted everyone to know so I asked him to keep it a secret and he told everyone that day that I was gay, it could have backfired and had so much people hate me as a person instead gain new friends I never had beforehand. Then the second time was with my mom this time I was more scared with coming out and didn't wanna tell her because my dad was very abusive and would have hurt both of us if I said anything also my mom's Irish so this could have gone one of two ways but yes again it wasn't me coming out to my mom my sister came out for me by telling my mother what if I don't want kids and want to date a man and then having my mom say well I can't wait to see his adopted children instead so yeah that's my life whoop I was like 13, 14 when I came out in school and about 16 when I came out to my mother.

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Gay, 22, United Kingdom

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Coming out story:

I was 14 years, when I started having feelings towards my same sex friends, but I was very afraid 😧 to say it out, because of the environment or country I was , and also the fear 😨 of what people around me will do to me. I kept these secrets for 25 hard years, I was depressed, angry, anxious 😬, confused, social distancing, all that can affect someone’s psychologically, emotionally and spiritually. I was in-prisoned inside my own body for a long time, even when I left my country. To cut the story short, the reason I’m able to come out here is because, I’m in a country 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦,that respects my choice, I’m no longer in the shell 🐚 of my self, I’m free folks and I’m going to shine ✨ like a diamond 💎………..

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Bi, 40, Canada

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Coming out story:

Was 30 yo and met a femme guy and bought him home. My housemate asked me if he was a he or a she. I replied by saying that it's up to my housemate what gender applies. She then came to me, gave me a huge hug and told me how proud she is that I am happy to be seen as not straight in sexuallity. I'm pansexual which I'm often asked what is pansexual? I usually reply by saying it's bi sexual but greedy, lol

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Pansexual, 19, Australia

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Coming out story:

I was 15 when I came out to my family and 14 to the public (yes I wasnt ashamed of the world) I was talking about my now ex boyfriend and than I said "In gay" abd they were totally chill about it and now Im 18 and confident abd like to dance and aing in the streets. I know it is hard for a lot of LGTBQ+ teenagers to come out and I have a kick butt awesome mom so if you dont feel like coming out to your family, you shouldnt. and if you want to but are worried about their response, I recommend saying: Mom/Dad How would you react if I was gay? even tho Im normally straight.

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Gay, 20, Belgium

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Coming out story:

I got home and literally sat on the couch and said, "Mom I'm trans" she asked what it was, I said I was someone who was going to transition or had already transitioned gender. Then she asked if I felt like a boy, I said no, I don't feel like either one, but that I was going to transition to male. She was like "okay, was that it?" she went back to watching TV and I replied "no mom, I'm pansexual". Again she said "okay" and now here I am in the middle of transition

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Polysexual, 19, Portugal

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I was 15 and I just came in high school and saw boy that I really liked and after few months I asked him if he wants to go out(as friend). We went in restaurant and we sat at the table and we had so much eye contact and then all of the sudden he said that he loves me and then we hugged and kissed. After that I came out to my parents and they were supportive.

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Gay, 19,

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Coming out story:

I was 14. I kissed shyly my bestfriend. He became red. Both of us got warm. We kissed again. The second time he hugged me holding a hand on my heart, the other on my butt. The day after me, my (at that time) girlfriend and him had fantastic time. We did become a threesome-couple. In my first relationship I had a girlfriend and a boyfriend that knew about each other. Than Alex left the city and all of us three broke our relation.

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Bi, 25, Italy

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So...When I was in the 7th grade of elementary school, a boy who went with me hugged me. He always looked at me in a different way, but he never admitted it to me. From that day I realized that I love men!

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Gay, 20, Croatia

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I'm 19 years old and I recently understood that I was bisexual after I made a lot of inner research first. Up until I turned 18 last year, I thought that I've been straight since I have always been falling in love with girls and not boys. However, I love boys and girls the same. The first people that learned about it, were my two best friends, a girl and a boy. Then, more people I'm very close with also learned about me being bisexual. Thankfully, I didn't have to face any racism or homophobia. Everyone accepted it with an open heart and allowed me to embrace it. I don't have any problems with my sexuality. I'm finally free to express how I feel. Love is love, guys! ❤️

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Gay, 20, Greece

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Hi I’m new here. I have tried to come out to my family mainly my mom but she only thought I was joking when I told her I’m bisexual and even showed her letters from my boyfriend at the time she didn’t believe me. So that was a fail. Co workers joke bad about bisexual people or any other sexual orientation other than what they are straight. Just want to make friends who understand what it’s like. 

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Bi, 40, United States

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rumors got spread at school, so my parents found out my sexuality from the other kids' parents. it was a very weird time of my life, but i do have an amazing friend now. it worked out better than i thought. keep fighting

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Bi, 23, Norway

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I was 22 years old this year when I came out as gay and it almost cost me my life I had to flee to Greece from Sierra Leone ...in my country it is life imprisonment and you might even be killed by your community people ...also known as jungle justice...I hope I get the much needed protection by the international community

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Gay, 23, Turkey

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I came out when I was only 14, the first person i told was my mum and she was so disappointed but also kinda knew from the jump. My dad went away for a while because of it. I was upset but my boyfriend stayed with me during the hard time. I feel like my life has changed ever since I came out for the better.

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Queer, 31, United Kingdom

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It didn't go as I expected... When I told to my family that I'm trans and gay, they said that I can be gay but I can't be a guy (I was 14y old). I'm born as a girl then I'm. But I didn't listen to them, I wasn't and I'm not a girl at all. I cried a lot bc of my trans-identity. I wasn't okay with myself, I was like : "I wanna be normal, I wanna be a girl" but bro, you're normal. Youre okay, you're fine. This is what I wanted to hear ! It's okay to be who you are ! Don't let people tell you who you have to be ! They are not you, they are not inside your head, they don't know how you feel. YOU are the only one who is and will be there for you so listen to yourself, believe in yourself because in the end, you will only be facing yourself. 🧋❤

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Gay, 20, France

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It was terrible 😳. I was 16 and drunk for the first time. All of the guys lay in the dark drunk and talked about everything. Well, you know how it is after a party - someone in bed, someone on the couch, someone right in the chair. And I just said "Guys, I'm gay and I'm not kidding." Too bad I didn't remember it myself. The guys didn’t tell me anything the next day, and when I decided to come out in my senior year, they were “We knew” and then "OMG... He didn't remember!!!"

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Gay, 31, Russia

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it wasn't the perfect way or even an okay way, it was traumatic in a sense. when I was 14 I was going through allot with my mental health and such when I met my then boyfriend he wasn't what I needed but he was a destruction from my mind and I really needed that, and I eventually started holding his hand and hugging him, and I even brought him home allot ( I said he was one of my friends) a few months after we started dating and me bringing him over to my house I decide to kiss him and just at that moment, my mother walks into the room with my washing, she dropped everything and started questioning me and that's when I blurted " I'm not like the other boys, I don't like football, I don't like cars and one thing is for sure, I don't like girls" and I shut down into my own head while she ranted about how disappointed and angry she was and how I had to carry the family name on and bla bla bla, then she threw my ex out and he never spoke to me since, eventually she started to talk to me and now she's back to her 'usual' self around me although my dad hasn't accepted me yet there is still hope

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Gay, 19, United Kingdom

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Coming out story:

I were 14 years old. I came out to my mum via SMS. My mum reacted very well and she was very supportive. It was the best decision in my whole life! I were very happy and relieved after I had my coming out! Be yourself and be proud! Everything will be fine! 🌈

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Gay, 20, Austria

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Coming out story:

It was actually this year, and I just decided to come out to some classmates of mine when I was talking with them on WhatsApp. It was a pretty impulsive decision, but I did it. They were really supportive and I really appreciated that :)

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Gay, 19, Romania

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Coming out story:

This is my coming out story. I knew when I was 19. I never hid it, just didn't freely offer this information. I'm still of the same mind that I don't volunteer this detail but I own it when asked

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Bi, 43, United States

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Coming out story:

Today I told my best friend that I had gay sex when I was 18. I've had several experiences that were intimate with gay men and I enjoyed it. I have tried to keep it a secret out of shame and would only refer to it jokingly but now I want to be more honest

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Bi, 55, Canada

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Coming out story:

Hello my name is Vesper, I came out in 2018 (22 at the time) while I was getting discharged for depression and suicidal ideations. Once getting out and moving back to my home state, I moved in with my grandmother. She took me in with open arms at first. At the time my I was suffering pretty bad from some undiagnosed mental health issues. After a month she found a wig under my bed and confronted me. After all the pressure I broke down crying telling her everything, after doing so she yelled at me and told me to get out on top of other hurtful stuff..

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Queer, 27, United States

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Coming out story:

I came out at 16 to my nan which at first I wasn't sure about because it meant that I had to own up to the fact that it was the truth but who you are is the person you are supposed to be and nothing you or anyone else say cannot change what is already done which is why I went ahead and come out. Afterwards it was a feeling of relief that now I can say and do anything without having to worry about keeping my sexuality low key so noone who find out. Im so happy that I'm out as gay

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Gay, 20, United Kingdom

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Coming out story:

It was so hard for me to come out considering in asian and in asia being gay is one of the worst things humanely possible. When i first came out it was to my mom who had a hard time accepting it but eventually realised it wasn't a "phase" and thats who i really am. My father on the other hand he hated and still hates the fact im gay and seeing him is still a struggle at times eventhough im comfortable with who i am.

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Gay, 28, United Kingdom

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Coming out story:

At the age of 25 sometime during the summer of 2021, I had an argument with my dad about where my life is headed. In-between my chronic negativity and fear of taking responsibility for myself I lashed out at him by trying to jump out a window. He stopped me. Mom heard us arguing and laughed at how silly it was and handed me an old photo of when I was 7. I took it and violently said I hated the little creep on it. When they asked me why, out of shear tear weight and confusion I burst out the truth. No mentioning of it ever since. Although I have been shown by my friends that being Homo is fine, and that I'm even the coolest one they've met , the brutal silence of my parents holds me back from trusting them ever again. So I trust My friends.

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Gay, 28, Bulgaria

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Coming out story:

Im currently 15 turning 16 in july. Im a transgender (also pansexual) and i came out to my teacher. she supported me i was happy! She did however tell me “you’re gonna cut your long beautiful hair.” I felt upset by it bc i didn’t know how to take that so i agreed and said yes i will. i have shown her a picture i took of me looking like a guy. ofc i don’t really look like it yet sense because my mum is homophobic\Transophobic. I don’t know what to do in that situation because i really can’t take it anymore. My girlfriend is also trans (mtf) she is feeling the same all i could say is we will both get there the pain together..and i hope we do. My “friends” (they arnt really my friends at this point. Know i’m trans (mtf) and i told them my name is Jaxon and my pronouns. they still get them wrong. i have to correct them in every sentence bc i get so uncomfortable. this isn’t me over reacting they don’t just forget like that. they prefer me as my born gender and i don’t want that. that isn’t me. they probably hate i talk about being a guy al lot. The thing is i talk about that and my wifeu a lot because i care for those things both. I don’t know what to do anymore nobody besides teachers support me and it makes me upset.

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Gay, 20, United States

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Coming out story:

I havent come out yet. I am still trying to figure this all out. I did come out to a gay friend once. I was in my 30s. It felt magical for someone else to know. So this is really my first.

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Questioning, 49, United States

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Coming out story:

No matter how scared or hard it is, we must accpet who we are and time will heal those who have hard feelings towards us it's either family or friends, what matters is we exist and that's enough to know we are loved, and the family is part of it, life is a gift we should not waste it. ❤

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78, 34, Philippines

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Coming out story:

I knew I was gay when I was 15 but did not come out to my family until I was 30. My mum took it will but my brother and sister didn't. My dad had died before I could tell him. Before I came out being gay I had a lot of friends but as soon as I came out to them they all left me and didn't want anything to do with me.

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Gay, 42, United Kingdom

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Coming out story:

I'm not plum out of the closet only about 3 people know I started when I was 9 a old guy got me started and that went on for years he always told me not to let people know that they would make fun of me or hurt me or use me so I'm still kinda afraid to get out of the closet

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Bi, 41, United States

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Coming out story:

In the year 2002, I came out to family and friends. The reaction I got from most people was very cold and unreceptive at the time. I lived in Georgia and people weren't as progressive in the area I lived in. I remember going through the first year of being out completely alone. A scared freshman in college coming to terms with who I was as a person. Now almost 20 years later I am confident in who I am. I had to learn to love myself before anyone could really love me. I was blessed on July 5th,2020 to marry my husband Garry.

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Gay, 39, United States

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Coming out story:

My friend found a gay magazine in my pickup when I was 17, pretty much from then on the people knew for sure. The word spread quickly. It wasnt easy at all in the 70s, There were very few gay boys who were openly gay, none in my circles. i got beat up and picked on a lot and worse, but i forged forward and when I was old enough I made my way to a bigger city where i could get lost in the crowds and eventually I found my place . My family were accepting and loving. Which made life so much easier.

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Other, 65, Canada

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Coming out story:

Mom came to me in the Kitchen and asked if I was gay and I said mom yes I am gay mom and she said I'm going to love you no matter what which made me cry

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Gay, 29, United States

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Coming out story:

What?? coming out?? I dont care about those words "coming out" or "in the closet". Do straight people coming out or stay in the closet just to be straight? I do whatever i wanna do. I dont care if they know or not if im a homo or a bi or a straight.

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Gay, 34, Indonesia

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I am 24, I live in South Africa for my entire life which has not been easy, I have been insulted, mocked, ridiculed for years and my selective mutism made things worse and my parents didn't help either. I always say that I was 9 years old when I realized I am gay but in truth it was between the age of 5 - 6 years old. I knew I liked or was attracted to men but didn't know the true meaning behind it. At the age of 9, someone who I thought was my friend kissed me. Just so he could figure out if was he was gay or not. He didn't care how I'd feel or how it would affect me. I did everything to hide that fact from everyone including those closest to me, especially my homophobic father. One night someone I trust opened my eyes, I then looked at the limitless sky's above and had a revelation. I saw how small I was in comparison the world around me was infinite. Filled with more wonders that I could ever imagine and through the clouds, golden rays of sunlight shone down on me. Like a gentle shower washing away the darkness. It warmed my soul and I have never felt more at peace. This was the first time I'd experienced true joy. At last I was thankful for the gift of life I'd been given. But at the end of this journey, what I found still eluded me. All I wanted to be happy, to let go of the pain and free myself from the darkness. I felt like I'm not meant to have anything good in my life. That I'm meant to be alone and misunderstood for my whole life. To live in darkness and envy those who live in the light. It wasn't soon after I realized that I started to have feelings for that person, who found out how I felt and told me that they didn't feel the same way about me. How did I move on from the pain? How did I cope? I thought that I moved on from it, but watching that person one night with someone else in the club. Brought back all the pain that I thought I had let go of. But now I feel more hollowed out inside than ever before. At first I started to ask myself questions: Did he feel sorry for me? Was I his charity case? Is that why he showed any interest in me? I also thought that he was just toying with me until something better came along and I wouldn't mind because I was lucky someone wanted me at all. Do you know what really sucks about falling for a guy, you know you're not right for? You fall in love anyway because you think/hope that things will turn out differently. For the past few months, I came out to a few of my family members (my little brother and two of my cousins) and a few friends. I have read other people's coming out stories, watching movies like "Prayers for Bobby", "Call Me By Your Name", and most of all "Love, Simon" (Which I relate to completely). For any kind of guidance to help me in my journey in life and to give me the courage to come out has a proud queer man to my friends, family and the world. I know that life from now onwards will not be easy and I will only be faced with more hardships, but I have is hope - the hope that my friends and family will love and support me on my journey as I continue to find both acceptance and myself in the world, and I hope others will do the same... ...Embrace who you are, all of who you are and you will be free. Because freedom is power. ☮️ 🏳️‍🌈🌈

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Gay, 27, South Africa

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Coming out story:

Long ago in a distant past, a younger version of myself started at a new primary school. He soon found himself compelled to stare deeply at a guy in the classroom, for no apparent reason. 2 whole years went by and he had no idea why he felt this way. It wasn't until he went to high school when he found out why. One night at the schools valentines dance, younger me danced with a cute girl. The vibe was fun and exciting, until a slow song began. Before they knew it, they were kissing. In that moment under the green and blue laser lights, younger me knew... He knew something wasn't right. One dance, and one kiss, was all it took for him to realise he was gay. Years went by before he came to terms with being gay. Younger me grew up and started University. This was his rebellious years. One day he was with his buddy on the roof and decided to light up a J****. Younger me puffed and puffed, and before he passed, he finally felt ready to come out and say, "I am gay."

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Gay, 27, South Africa

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Coming out story:

I was 13 when my mother caught me playing dress up in her clothes lol needless to say she already knew so they were more supportive than I would have thought

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Bi, 37, United States

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Coming out story:

As I remember the first signs of my orientation were at the sixth form. I felt in love with one classmate but showed no emotions because in my hometown it wasn't welcomed. You shouldn't be different and if you were born as a guy, you must fight, be rude and so on)🙈 Well, years went on and on, I kept silence till the tenth form. Had a lot of conflicts with other schoolboys, overcame a great chellange (lost 25 kg, I had overweight) but decided not to tell anyone🤐 One night I came to the seaside in a very bad mood, listened Evanescence and 30 Seconds to Mars (thanks God to have them in our world)) Suddenly a car appeared, stopped and a drunk man came out of it🙄 He stood near me, smoked and asked "An awful day?". I answered "Yes, it is. " He said "Don't worry. And never give up. Everything will be ok". He put out the cigarette, got into a car and drove away. Next day I came out to my best friend Dasha after the school. We walked among the beach and spoke for some hours. She said "OK. And what? I kissed a girl last summer and I liked it"😂 We laughed) After it I told about my feelings to that guy but he answered that he is straight😖 We stopped talking and have never been talked to each other since then. But I remember one thing: after my coming out to him I got his support in my conflicts with other guys but in such a way that I didn't know about it) 🤗 And as for the guy on the car... I even don't know the name but thanked him with all my heart for right words at a right time and place. Now most acquaintances and friends now about me and everything is really👌 The Truth is "Never give up. Everything will be ok"😏

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Gay, 32, Russia

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Coming out story:

Hi my name is Fidel. So I was in fourth grade when I knew I was gay, at first I wasn't really sure of what I am. So I tried to date other girls at my school, just to make sure if I'm really attracted to them. Then on sixth grade, I knew that I was attracted to guys. But then it's really wierd cuz' at that time I really hated guys. So then growing up, it's just me and my mom with my 2 brothers. At first, I really wanna tell my mom that I was gay, but I got so scared because of what my relatives would think. I wasn't the first gay in the family. I have an uncle who's gay, and when he first came out to his parents, which are my grandparents, it didn't really worked out. So I thought that maybe it's better if they didn't know. After months, I finally got the courage to tell my mom that I'm gay. When I told her that I'm gay, she goes like "Yeah, I know." So I was like "What????" And she was like "What do u think of me?? I raised u for like 18 years, do u think that I wouldn't notice?? Idiot!" So after that day, I was like, a bitch is finally reborn!!.

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Gay, 23,

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Coming out story:

I figured out I was bisexual when I was 13. Not long after I was talking with my mother and my sister and the topic of sexuality came up. Because it was so long ago I don’t remember how it came up and I don’t remember the exact words my mom said but my mom basically said while she is “an ally” and believes being gay is fine bisexuality isn’t real and is just caused by relationship issues in the past or emotional trauma. She did not know about me at the time and as I looked up to my parents that caused me to suppress my attraction to other boys as I questioned my sexuality. I am also on the autistic spectrum with Aspergers and part of me thought that maybe my attraction to boys was somehow caused by that. Not much changed until around eight years later when I became friends with a couple coworkers, one who was gay and one who was pansexual. I eventually decided to talk to my pansexual friend about her sexuality. That discussion, as well as the fact that I was now living on my own and knew that even if my parents didn’t accept my sexuality my friends would, helped me work up the courage to come out to my parents when I was 23. A full decade after I figured it out. My mom apparently forgot we had the conversation in the past and tried to say the same things to me that she did ten years earlier, with my father agreeing with her, but eventually they seemed to accept my sexuality. Only after I went no contact with them for a month and a half over it though so it’s hard to know if they actually accept it or they are just saying it. Of course my friends accepted it immediately like I knew they would. I’m now 24 and have a boyfriend that I love very much.

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Bi, 28, United States

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Coming out story:

My coming out was quite easy I was 16 I first came out to my brother brother I was at his is when when I had my brainwave then I told Mum and she wasn't surprised at all and accept me my whole family have been really good with my sexuality the only person that had a hard time was dad but I don't don't really see him so that's ok I have have mostly a loving accepting family which I am grateful for

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Gay, 27, United Kingdom

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Coming out story:

I was 19 in the Air Force when I knew I was interested in guys. I wish I would have had more confidence in myself at that age. To go after that cute guy whenever I met one. But I was too shy and even though I did meet and see a couple of guys, I realized it was important to wait for a time when I felt more comfortable. I dated some cute guys when I got out of the military, but as of yet, haven't settled down with anyone yet? I just know that he will be very special and will have all of my favorite features I love about men!😍🥰💋

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Gay, 49, United States

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Coming out story:

Hey guys! I am from Colombia, I'm 28 years old, I'm coming from the Colombian Caribbean coast, a very conservative region, because religious influence, I came out a couple years ago with my family, my mom always knew but it's quite complicated to accept mostly when you grew in that kind of culture with toxic masculinity and others issues... I have a good relationship in general with my family and friends... My sister support me a lot and now I feel comfortable and proud of being who I am and everything I've achieved...

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Gay, 31, Colombia

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Coming out story:

Since I was a little boy I knew my orientation, tried to keep it secret for a long time but always knew who I was. Never dated girls because I didn't want to hurt people now or later when I finally decided to come out; I am from a small town in Colombia where religion and people's opinions are important in society. After a trip I did, where I saw options and discovered that being gay was also good, respectful and normal. One day before going back to my home country, I decided to tell my sister who I was visiting. In the beginning she was confused and lost, but after a couple minutes she just said "I'm sorry for my reaction, I love you and now I love you more because you are true to yourself, you are a grown up person now and you just wanna follow to yourself, and if you are happy, I'm happy" It was a bit uncomfortable for me after coming out for the first time to a family member. But i also felt so free, I felt real and valued, finally I was the person I wanted to be, I was finally that Ivan that I was hiding for more than 20 years. The second person I came out to was my mom, after 1 year of coming out to my sister, I got the strength to come out to my mom. We went to a park, I remember there was a music band playing and some people watching and dancing around them. My mom could notice that I was so nervous, then she asked me if there was something wrong. Not thinking, I said I had something to tell her, she said "sure, go ahead" "Mom I am gay".... her reaction marked my life... "was that why you were so nervous? Pff! No reason to be or feel bad! It is not easy because society is notified ready, but I am and I love you for who you are. Just be careful with STDs.... you got a man? Tell me!!!! 😀😀😀". I cannot explain how I felt in my body, i was so light and full of energy. I hugged her and then we took a walk... we talked about many things, including LGBT issues, from respect and love! I think I'm a lucky guy, all my family and friends are supportive with me, and with us, because it it not o to about me, is about us. The fact that all of them support me, in a way is support for all of us as a community. If you check my profile I have a pic with my mom at Stockholms pride!

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